How To Be Creative By Letting Go Of Comparisons

Creating Fearlessly 

Letting Go Of Comparisons

I'm sure you have heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder - and sometimes we ladies behold ourselves and the stuff we do AND all we can do is self criticize.

We do it so much and so well there are ad-companies who sell products based on on letting go of that inner critic and accepting who we are.

I actually congratulate myself  when I  find the flaws.  Give me a gold star, because, look, I'm honest about my shortcomings.  If you're not sure what they are, I will voluntarily provide you with a complete list! Just ask.  Or don't ask.  I am likely to hand you the list anyway.

It's not just that I don't like what I see, what I am, or the stuff I create, it's that I am comparing it to some other ideal. Even if I never saw a commercial, never saw how big the Smith's house was, never experienced someone else's art - gee what would I be judging myself against?

If there is no yard stick - how can I measure?

It's not just that I have trouble looking in the mirror and not comparing myself to other women.  I mean, come on!  Julianna Margulies and I are about the same age.  Shouldn't I look like her? Shouldn't all middle aged women get to wake up in the morning and look like her?  That smooth dark hair.  That flawless skin and bright smile.

My hair is dark.  Hey, we practically look like sisters.  If she had a shorter, triangle shaped sister with frizzy hair and a smile badly in need of a Cadillac dental plan....It's not just this famous woman (who has a team of people to make her look beautiful and whose job requires being well put together) I have this horrible tendency to compare myself to the women all around me, it's like a filter I wear over my brain!  Look at me I am wearing a giant coffee filter on my head!   I have to consciously take that thing off to even see a little bit clearly.

Creating Fearlessly

To create fearlessly, to explore crafts, art and even scrapbooking, I have to make myself stop comparing and just Do.  I have to quiet my inner editor, just move forward, letting every project become a learning experience.  I write a story, bake a cake, and or even invite people over into my home, I have to take off that ugly filter and just rest in who I am.

For me, it's a Faith thing.  I have help removing that filter, and I have help resting - sometimes I can't do it on my own. Okay, Usually I can't do it on my own.

In the last year I have been very aware of this critical side of me.  Not just because I wear my own ridiculous, useless filter, but  because I see other's through it. And I don't want to do that.  I don't want to be a critical-comparing person.  I really don't.  In 2015 I've worked harder on being more encouraging and empowering to everyone. I choose to encourage my husband, my children, my friends.  Even myself.

I honestly believe, the only way I am going to be able to continue to create anything fearlessly in 2015 is by Letting Go of Comparisons, and just accepting that - This is Me.  I was created to be Me, not Julianna Margulies, not anyone else.  And me is not only okay, Me is uniquely gifted, specially different, and wonderfully made.

My word for 2015 is fearless.  

I used Tattered Angels Glimmer Mists & paints to for the colors on this large tag. On the girl I used High Impact Paints and did a tiny bit of detailing with metallic Pitt pens. I used a little bit of glitter glue, but didn't like it and scrapped most of it off.  The flowers all started out white, as did those little strands of burlap.  The little frame is an old K & Company epoxy and metal frame I have had for ages and ages.  I painted it with gesso and  used a Tattered Angels Naturally Aged Paint System to change it completely.  I love how it turned out.  The little metal findings are from 7 Gypsies.  The background papers are from the 7 Gypsies, Gypsy Moments line.  The tissue paper is French Scrip from Canvas Corp brands that I painted with Tattered Angels Paints.  


Spark Some Creativity With The Kraaft Shaak Mixed Media Kit - How To Make A Book From Two Canvases

 It's time to SPARK some kreativity.  

The Kraaft Shaak design team members were each gifted a mixed-media kit from the Kraaft Shaak store to use.   You can find out about all the projects and other fantastic designers HERE.  I love this kit so much and have already written a long post about it.  I couldn't help myself.  There were just so many good things that I had to tell you about, you might want to also check out my post Mixed Media Art Kit Adventures.

I got a kit with two 5 x 7 canvas's and picked Eggshell Prima Chalkboard Paint and the White Sand Texture Paste.

The Mixed media kit was my "Spark" for Kreativity  for this project.  I'm kinda of a "seat of my pants" krafter, trying new things and learning as I go.  I decided to use both my canvas's (should I say, kan-vas?)  in one project, stack them together and make a book. 

I've never made anything like this before.  

I got a little too excited about all my great ideas that I forgot to take good photos of all the cool stuff in the kit.  ARG.  Note to self - grab a camera like +Sylvia Tabor does whenever I open a box.  It drives me nutty when folks don't share all the good stuff they get in the mail - but what do I do when I get good stuff?  I tear right into it like a kid on Christmas.  

Little Samples of fun things that go a looong way. This is  Art Sugar, Micro Beads, Lindy's Stamp Gang Magicals, Mica Flakes, Butter Beads, Glass sitter, and Sample Collage Papers from the Kit. 

These are some of the collage papers and the selection of all the mediums I got to play with. I used the papers for the base of the project and glued them down with Mod Podge, painted them with a couple of coats of chalk paint, and then added some of my own Lindy's Stamp Gang Moon Shadow Colors as well of some Prima Color Bloom Sprays. I didn't have trouble with color layers sticking BUT I also used the Mod Podge and Aleene's spray sealer between some of the layers. 

I got a little Finnibair wood grain stamp in my kit that I used on the inside of the canvas. I also added some gold Pearl Ex to the texture paste and spread that on the inside of the one of the 5 x 7's.  And did some fun swirls with some the kit goodies.  I thought the sand would be dull, but even plain it had a nice kind of gloss that I really liked.

By Dapoppins, Finnabair Style, Vintage Romantic Lady, Collage, glitter swirls

I love adding layers and depth.  And once I got going - well I just kept going.  Pulling things from here and there.  Taking an hour to look for just that one thing that I needed from my own stash.  This project took awhile because I tried to let things air dry.  I din't want to rush anything and ruin it.  I misted, I daubed, I layered and dripped to my hearts content to get this messy, grungy-pretty look.  

I bet that you didn't realize that "grungy-pretty" was a thing.  Well it totally is! Tell your husband I said so - y'know  that guy who usually asks you, "Did you mean to do it that way?"

I made the two canvas's into a book just adding gaffers tape down the one side and on the insides.  I was going to hinge it too, but the hings were too small or in the wrong place or something.  They kept  the book from opening nicely so I pulled them out and re-taped it. 

Dapoppins, Kraaft Shaak Mixed Media Kit #ksdt2015

By Dapoppins, Finnabair Style, Vintage Romantic Lady, Collage, #ksdt2015

Dapoppins #ksdt2015

I worked on the inside of the canvas and the outside.  There were die-cuts and a napkin in the kit and I used layered them onto every side of the canvases.

Art Ingredients, #Ksdt2015

There was a page in the collage papers with rhymes on it from a children's book...as some point and time I decided that I would highlight it.  I downloaded the photo of the woman from pinterest that would be my girl in silk and satin. 

By Dapoppins, Finnabair Style, Vintage Romantic Lady, Collage

I used the mica flakes from the kit and added a couple of pinches of my own gold flakes.  I was hopping for a mosaic effect, or at least something textured like broken china.  Be really sweet and tell me that is what you see, and not a bad case of dandruff. 

Mixed Media Altered Canvas Creche Book for the Kraaft Shaak By Dapoppins

You might have noticed the empty compartment?  I made something to fit right in there....

By Dapoppins, Mini book

By Dapoppins, Mini book

I will not go into detail about the little book inside the book.  It is my first little book without a simple O ring binding and it didn't go very well.  But done is better than perfect.  I added a few stickers from my stash, inked the edges and called 'er done.  It reads, "All Good." on the cover. 

Lady in Pink, Finnabair Style Romantic Canvas by Dapoppins

Mini Book By Dapoppins

Mini book by Dapoppins

I had such fun kreating this.  Having the kit really freed me to play with stuff.  I didn't worry too much about ruining  something precious I just went forward and kreated fearlessly.  I hope this little "spark" encourages you to step out of your comfort zone and make something different.  

And DON'T ask your husband if what you kreate is pretty.  Lawd, NO. (not to be hard on our lovely husbands or anything, but some of them are klue-less)  Bring it over to the G+ Kraafters Kommunity and share it with us.  I promise we will give you some good feedback and answer or find the answers to any Krafty Question you might think up.  In fact, if you have any questions about my project, how I did something or what I used, just leave me a comment.  I'd love to hear from you. 


How To Overcome Self Doubt

We all have those days.  Those days where self doubt strikes up the orchestra in your brain and starts that same old song you have been hearing since you were in jr. high (- maybe even before that.) 

I'm not good enough.  
I can't do anything right.
No one will ever see me.
Why am I wasting my time on this?
Why do I even bother?

For me, these days come after a high - after something really good happens.  Sometimes it happens as soon as an hour after I get good news.  

Or these days come with the hormone surges and lapses of being female.  I'm still young enough to get those days - err, weeks.  

I don't like that voice that tells me "I'm not good enough."  I know you have heard it too.  For some people, no matter how perfect they are, they still hear it.  In fact, I bet the more perfect you are, the more you hear it.

We can't all have the confidence of Donald Trump.  

You have to give that man credit where credit is due.  He has lived all those inspiring quotes about overcoming adversity, failing and not giving up, taking risks, and hard work bringing big things to pass.  His arrogance, no matter how overpowering, is earned from his experiences.  This is what happens when you loose everything and get it back, it's what happens when risks pay off.

How I Overcome Self Doubt

Recognize The Lies.
That voice that says “You are not good enough.”  is lying to you.  If you listen to the lie, you will never be more than “not good enough.”

Keep Trying Until You Do It Right.

It is better to try and fail than not try at all.  So keep trying, keep learning, keep doing until get to where you want to go.

Seek A Comforter

There is no need to go this alone.  Since I am a Christian believer, I am never alone, and I always have Someone who looks at me and says.  “You are not perfect, I still love you.  You are good enough for Me to die for.  I accept you.  Keep moving forward.  I am with you.”

Not a Believer?  

Then find your friend, your parent, the love of your life, to speak truth to you.  

Get Some Space.  

It’s okay to withdraw, reboot, and take some time to evaluate.  Have some coffee.  Eat some chocolate.  Take a nap.  

Focus on the Good.  

Instead of being overpowered by all the things going wrong, count your blessings. Find the things that are going right and be grateful for them.

Count Your Victories

Remember Donald Trump?  He’s not looking at his failures.  He’s looking at his victories.  He’s letting them power him forward.  What are the victories in your life?  Where can you give yourself an A+ grade?  Where were your prayers answered?  

Speak Positive Things Out Loud
Drown out the ugly lies by speaking “I CAN.”  over them.  I use Biblical Scripture for this and read through who God says I am.  

Go Love On Someone

Just do this.  You will feel better.

Fix What You Can, Walk Away From What You Can Not Fix

We can only control ourselves.  Therefore, we can only fix ourselves.  If I need a conversation with someone to erase my self doubt, to deal with perceived wrong-doing on my part, to better understand a situation, than I try to have that conversation.  But my response to any and every situation is one I own.  I control myself.  So I fix what I can in myself.  If it’s not in me, I can’t fix it.  So it’s best to walk away.  

I hope you are encouraged by this post. I started out feeling very discouraged, now that I've gone through the list, I am feeling ever so much better. What do you do to Overcome Self Doubt? Do you have a cheerleader in your life to speak truth to you?

My Grandmother Dee was that person for me. When she died at age 86 a few years ago, I keenly felt the loss. But God knows what we need. Amazingly, last summer I met a fellow crafty person in the form of +Nancy Gaines. She is an encourager by nature even though she comes with the cutest pair of red glasses and no pom-pom's. She is launching her own really cool business this week. You really should pop over to her website Domesticraft.com and check her out.